Comments on: Using Facebook to stalk former professors http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/ History and sexual politics, 1492 to the present Sun, 21 Sep 2014 07:01:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.9.2 By: louisemcdonald http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-1072212 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 15:58:30 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-1072212 my husband is a college professor and has a sudent from 20 years ago that will not stop stalking. It’s my husband’s fault because one night a few years ago he was very drunk and emailed a positive response back to her. In the light of day, he regretted what he wrote but it gave the stalker something to hope for. so a lot of it is his fault. it isn’t constant, but every few months he gets a text or facebook post just to remind him that she is around. pathetic!

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By: Former Student http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-875054 Tue, 20 Sep 2011 11:35:02 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-875054 This former student was wrongfully accused of slandering another student in front of the entire class without even being questioned whether or not he did it. He was humiliated in front of the entire class and knew he had to continue the rest of the semester with this professor that embarrassed him and the rest of the students probably gossiped/avoided him. Rumors do spread like wildfire and his reputation may have been damaged for the rest of his college career. Some professors grade students based on how they feel about them, and she could have gave him an undeserving grade based on this. Of course he is not going to forget and hold a grudge. In college, students are no longer children and that professor had no right to kick him out without getting the full story. Seems like the former professor has control issues and favors female students.

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By: Western Dave http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-800061 Fri, 11 Mar 2011 02:27:09 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-800061 With no mix-up, this is the equivalent of drunk dialing. (And actually even if it had been a mix-up it would just be that much more drunk dialing). I’m going with the crowd and saying this kid had a major crush.

And Historiann, I think your right that age has something to do with it, but also things that were considered “feminist” 10 years ago, aren’t now. I know that as a white man in a girls’ school where most teachers are women, I am far more free to teach an anti-racist, feminist agenda because I am allegedly objective, plus since most of our stuff is activities and a minimum of lecturing, the kids end up finding it for themselves rather then me telling it to them.

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By: LadyProf http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799675 Thu, 10 Mar 2011 04:59:54 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799675 Nope, no droppings (yet) from angry former students on my Facebook page. Only a matter of time: my privacy fences are low and I give offense now and then.

But for now I’m scratching my head over the accusation. “Kicked out of” what? One class meeting, I think, not the entire class/course. Based on the unfounded accusation of some “girl.” So, what happened? In the middle of Greek Philosophy a girl said, “Johnny just called me a —!” (because the ejection was based “simply” on the girl’s word; no witness heard the name-calling), to which your correspondent said, “That’s it, Johnny! Out of the room!” In college rather than eighth grade? I don’t think so. What am I missing?

My best diagnosis, agreeing with others’, is an old semi-smoldered crush. And Johnny was never kicked out of any class meeting; he feels kicked out, and wrote accordingly. Flattering in its way … but my heart would have sunk if I received that message.

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By: Nimue http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799653 Thu, 10 Mar 2011 04:03:35 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799653 To me this students’ FB message read completely differently. I heard his message as “I am unspeakably irritated that you, a mere *woman*, would dare to presume to order me out of class.” The way he refers to her as someone he had “dealt with” in university-using language that implies that he was the one in the position of power in their interaction, to me reads like (yet another) irritating iteration of wounded male privilege. Likely I see it this way because of past events in my life, but I wonder if anyone else sees this also? (or if I’m imposing my experiences on the text…big oopsie in that case!)

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By: Z http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799630 Thu, 10 Mar 2011 02:59:54 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799630 Facebook parody BBC: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkoGVQRUxgk

There are hilarious parodies in Spanish. In Argentina there is a novel based on it – _Faceboom_ – which I should really get. This is a video about it – the premise is, you start taking FB literally, as in the BBC parody – and you can probably understand it even without Spanish: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I7eq1SarHTw

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By: Z http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799622 Thu, 10 Mar 2011 02:46:37 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799622 @Tom, I use FB that way but to communicate in town with people I know but not don’t know well.

- who can take care of whose pet
- where is so and so’s pet
- is the hurricane really coming and if so, to what level does everyone think we should prepare
- who knows a good painter
- there are no nails left at hardware store X, go to store Y
- I’m ill and can’t walk, is anyone available to pick up a prescription?
- I am going to place X to observe the meteor shower and would prefer company, meet at trailhead A 5PM?
- Band Z is playing at Club X, I am stuck on my chapter and need fresh air, will be heading out at 10, anybody else interested in study break?

Most of the people who say these things, or to whom I say them, are people I do not know well enough to feel comfortable calling. So I get housesitters and info and things like that which I otherwise would not get, at least not so easily.

This having been said I do not like Mark Zuckerberg and I look forward to the open source Facebook like thing which will exist one day.

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By: Matt_L http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799409 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 19:00:16 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799409 How bizarre is that? I hate to sound like an old fogey, but thats not even stalking, its bad manners. I think we need to go back to teaching manners and deportment in grade school, high school and probably even college.

I propose a core class: Humanities 101 – “How not to be a boorish idiot in the modern world.”

I’ll start the syllabus:

lesson number one – “not everyone cares what you think”
lesson number two – “why twenty-year-olds don’t know anything about pretty much anything aka – why you are here in college getting an education”

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By: Tom http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799347 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 16:43:05 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799347 I can describe some of the appeal of Facebook: I do not write an academic blog, and I have few colleagues interested in (any of) my work at my current institution. Facebook allows certain kinds of professional contact and communication (including an exchange with a colleague yesterday about the significance of her digital pictures (travel photos, really, in some ways) of an eighth-century stone cross) that I would not otherwise have. These pictures would not have been emailed to me, but they were posted on Facebook, which thus enabled a (brief) discussion on a topic of interest. Facebook can be a way of communicating with a group of friends or colleagues without the directness (or one-on-one limitations) of a personal email. There is a place for it, perhaps especially for those of us who wish not to write academic blogs? This Facebook exchange offered an opportunity for casual comment from a group of interested parties that otherwise could never have occurred except at a professional conference: and yet such casual exchanges can be very valuable, and if Facebook makes room for more of them, I’m in favor.

That said, I would not enjoy a bolt like this one from the blue from an angry old student. But I do enjoy the occasional appreciative, or even just friendly, communique from a long lost student!

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By: Historiann http://www.historiann.com/2011/03/08/using-facebook-to-stalk-former-professors/comment-page-1/#comment-799325 Wed, 09 Mar 2011 16:08:38 +0000 http://www.historiann.com/?p=14409#comment-799325 But, he wasn’t taking her femininst phil course–he was in Greek philosophy! I have to say that at that uni, young women professors were regularly “read” as feminist provocations no matter what they were actually professing. I thought that I offered a completely bland and inoffensive survey course, full of John Winthrop, the Federalist Papers, and the Gettysburg Address, and I was also lectured by students to keep my feminazi ideas to myself and teach “American history,” instead of talking about “blacks, women, and Indians” all the time.

This happens less frequently now, but that may be a function of my age (early 40s, not late 20s/early 30s) rather than a substantively different student population.

Squadrato–I too wondered about the possibility that his anger (even now) is the result of a partial thwarted crush on her.

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