Not every American woman gets raped or sexually harassed every day. We don’t all get overcharged on cars or appliances we buy every single time. (Most of us are chronically underpaid for our work relative to our male peers, however–that is something of a constant, I’m afraid!) But sometimes it’s the little things about being a woman that add up to teh suckity-suck. Exhibit A, from Suzie at Echidne’s place:
I received a party invitation that read: “Please bring a dish to share – a bottle of wine or soft drink will be acceptable from male guests. :-)” Because this was sent to students mostly from other countries, the host may have felt the need to spell out what many Americans already acknowledge. Women are expected to cook or, at the least, buy a side dish or dessert for a potluck. Men get less criticism for bringing less.
What a helpful lesson in the different care work expectations for American women and men! (And I just love the little smiley face, which seems to acknowledge the unfairness of it all but also remind us that it’s all in good fun!) I agree with the commenters who told her just to bring what’s “acceptable from male guests.” Or, maybe I’d just skip the “party.” Are certain kinds of dress acceptable for men and not for women? Is there a different etiquette code for women and men guests? (Sadly, the answer to this question is yes at many social gatherings.)
Quite frankly, it sounds like too much of a pain in the a$$ to bother with.
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