Well, it was great that he didn’t try to molest me or anything, but now I’m wondering about the incident. Why take me to his home? What would he have done if I hadn’t just sat quietly in the dining room, but had sought him out? I wonder. The possible answers make me shiver.

What does everyone else think of this?

So when I say this is a feminist blog, that’s not to say that we know the “truth” in every case, but rather to suggest that we attend the larger context in which these crimes are committed and how they are (all too frequently) covered up and/or left unpunished.

One way traffic on any idea, from one angle, is never useful, best to thoroughly interrogate it from all perspectives to acheive the best possible solution.

It’s funny, currently I’m engaged in a furious debate regarding violence towards women in the UK, a raft of male bloggers are underplaying the extent of it (a view that I find most repulsive, being someone who had the honour of working with women who had been abused and writing a play with them to highlight the truth) but their stance forces me to make sure I investigate all the date, all the angles and to try and unpick their reasoning.

In that case, it stems from a lack of belief that in 2009 some men still treat some women like that, it comes from their own faith and their own actions but is not reflective of the wider issue. As I said to them, more women than not in my life have been the targets of abuse.

I tell you this so that you don’t think me a bigot but rather a curious visitor investigating your ideas.

All the best to you.

Some people do that and a more common sense approach can be utilised.

It’s not one way traffic.

It’s really not difficult at all, unless you get your kicks abusing your power over someone else!

I must say that with the spectre of sexual harrassment cases looming over human interaction, it can sometimes lead to safety first behaviour which is no doubt good for avoiding lawsuits but not what you want when it comes to romance.